I know, I don't usually post pregnancy related stuff here. (For the new followers, pregnancy stuff is all here.) But I have to get this out there.
Am I really that strange?
People seem to think I'm a freak of nature for the way I'm treating this pregnancy, which is to say, I'm not treating it like an illness. They absolutely hit the roof when they hear I haven't seen a doctor ("Why?" I say. "I'm not sick.") They can't believe that in this day and age a person wouldn't take full advantage of all the technology out there. When people hear that I have no idea what our baby's gender is, they're speechless. Then you can see them work it out in their heads. "Ohhh," they say, knowingly. "Baby wouldn't show you on the ultrasound." Uh, not exactly. Can't really have an ultrasound if you don't have a doctor.
Maybe I'm not comfortable with ultrasounds. Maybe I don't feel like getting a whole bunch of tests with high false positive rates. Maybe I feel like pregnancy and birth are just part of life, not some horrible sickness to be "managed." I do not have cancer or AIDS or multiple sclerosis or emphysema. I'm just pregnant.
"Think of all that could go wrong!" they say. Yes, think of it. Is any of it preventable? Nope. An ultrasound might show me a baby with birth defects, which would cause much more anxiety than it would solve. A glucose tolerance test might show gestational diabetes - but so will a regular urine disptick test for sugar. Another thing the doctor won't tell you is that you can tell where the placenta is without using an ultrasound. It makes a certain sound on a Doppler, so rather than expose my baby's developing tissues to ultrasound radiation for 30 minutes or more, I'll let my midwife check with the Doppler for thirty seconds.
And what about labor? "You need to be in a hospital in case something goes wrong!" Oh, yes. That's right. Something going wrong. Well, in all my previous births, all the things that went wrong were direct results of interventions the hospital took. And statistically, the odds of something going wrong are low enough that I am more than comfortable staying at home.
Honestly, if I could have it my way, I'd have the baby here at home with no one else. No midwife, no doula. Just me and my family welcoming our new little one into the world.
My Mom Body (aaay_macaroni)
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